Does Absence Create a Fonder Heart?

I am tired. Beat. Had enough. I'm having trouble dealing with the normal ups and downs of my daily life and I need a break. Here's the thing: I want to vacation by myself. Ah, but now I have a doting husband to consider. So, here's the question: should married couples take separate vacations?

I did a google search on this question and came up with a mixed bag of answers. The most common response was that "girls' weekends" or "guys' fishing trips" are completely ok, provided that each spouse is on board with the idea and feels comfortable with it. There was a lot of discussion about how separate vacations should not include solo travel by one marital partner due to the created opportunity for extra-marital liaisons.

When my now-husband and I went to pre-marital counseling, the counselor told us that separate vacations were a no-no. He said that we should plan our vacations together, taking into account the other's desires, and plan a vacation that will meet at least some of each of our criteria.

I'm not saying that I have a problem with that, it's just that I am so tired right now that I don't want to talk to anyone. My husband included. And I especially don't want the stress of traveling with him (despite his pronouncements to the contrary, he is a terrible traveler).

There are these cabins I used to camp at in the Catskill mountains before I was married. They don't have running water or electricity, but they do have a gas-powered stove and refrigerator, and some gas lamps for night. There's also a woodburning stove for heat and a fireplace to relax in front of. They are located in part of the Catskill mountain nature preserve and sit right on 1500 acres of excellent hiking land. I LOVE those cabins. My husband does not. He is scared of bears (??). He is offended by the outhouse. He hates carrying buckets of water.

I am wishing desperately to go stay in one of the cabins. Just me and mi'dog. We'd hike. I'd read. And embroider. And cook. I'd wake up when I want and nap when I want and haul my own water and chop my own wood. I'd build my own fire without my husband telling me I'm doing it wrong (Is the wood burning? Yes? Well, that's all that counts...). And the best part: I wouldn't talk to ANYONE. Except maybe the dog. And he won't talk back. He'll just thump his tail on the floor. Oh yeahhhhhhhhhhhhh.

I don't see that infidelity is an issue in this circumstance (um, there's no one really nearby?). And I don't particularly see how to compromise this one out. Unless maybe my husband stays in the next cabin over, a mile or so away. And doesn't visit. That might be ok. But I don't really think it counts as taking a vacation "together," lol. And he'd probably land up in my cabin in any event yelling about bears.

We have idly discussed taking a vacation to a warmer location where he can fish and I can sit by the pool and embroider. I suppose that's an option. But I'll still end up talking in the evenings at dinner and at breakfast. Ok, I guess if he gets up at 5am, or whatever ridiculous hours fisherman get up in the morning, I won't see him. Talking at dinner then. And to whatever random people I need to talk to throughout the day. Sigh. I need to get out of here. Alone.